I was not clear. Thanks Steve for pointing that out. So, IF your kids are strongly impacted in some way you can tell her what YOU have seen/heard and voice a consern or as I wrote earlier say how you view things. These things IMO are part of co-parenting. But you can never control her and should never tell her what to do or how to do things on her time. Unless abuse of course.
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021