New Beginnings

[CanBird]

When your divorce is official, and friends and neighbors ask about "your husband", what do you say? "we're not together", seems to sit well with me. As for my D4, I don't know what to say. But she needs to know soon. Her dad works out of state 6 months of the year, and would "normally" be done & back around now- November. Everyone who knows us, knows this or at least asks, when is he back? I've got to tell D4 something before I start sharing with others, outside my closest circle of friends.

I have no need to contact him, other than needing to know about child support. It starts, but I don't know exactly how & when. Of course, it's in the papers. I've got a number to call for that. And a few others for assistace if need be.

This is first post on this board. I was on MLC, although myx might turnout to be a WAS. He works out of state 6 months, has been away since April. We have one child together, D4. April was the last time he saw either of us face to face. He's reached out here & there with messages for her, videos, photos etc etc. I have no idea what comes next. Xh has OW, from his past, from another country (EU), ten yr younger than him. Apparently, he contacted her a few years ago. He'd never gotten over her. Ugh...whatever..barf..barf....

I got my divorce papers in the mail Monday. He's done his seasonal 6 months of out of state work. I assume this because I got my official papers. His copy was sent here too. I'm tempted to "return to sender", and his lawyers office can send it off to him, where ever he maybe. I dont know, I dont ask. D4 has not asked either. But she will.

Now what? I just started a new part-time job. I'll have benifits in January. I am also working on getting my citizenship. We live reside in the home xh & I own. No plans to sell, we'll split it 50/50 if that happens. I have ownership of the vehicle I drive.

In the agreement, he's to cover the mortgage, which is in his name. Bills and a loan, are covered by our rental income, that I maintain & I manage. M payments, are in his name, and have been "onhold"/forbearance, due to Covid. He's covered some home insurance costs. But other than monies from our rental has covered most bills. As long as it's rented with someone that pays. Hard times 2020.

"Every New beginning comes from some other beginnings end."