Oh hun, I'm so sorry to hear about the turn of events. It's really unfortunate, but maybe for the best so you can move on with your life instead of being stuck in an infinite loop of "she loves me, she loves me not."
Work sounds like a good and needed distraction for you.
I do worry that you are paying the lion's share out while WW gets a fresh shiny new life on your dime, but I'm not really one to talk. When I left my first H I legit left with only my family's antique Christmas ornaments and the clothes my daughter and I had. I just wanted it to be done. I didn't care how much it cost for me to start over as long as we could just be done, be done quickly, and be done without a huge fight. So I don't have much to offer in the "don't do that" area on all that.
I'm also worried about WW trampling over normal boundaries of a separating couple. Like Yail I worry about the energy vampire effect that this is going to have on you. I know you still love her, and this is so, so hard. That you welcome the touch and closeness, but this is hurting you. It's clearly causing you more pain that you don't deserve here.
Lastly, the undesirable thing. I think we all go though it. You aren't, you're a catch. And I'm sure a stone cold fox, but this awful stuff about being willing to leave you for someone else has this horrible side effect of making a person think they're deficient. You aren't. She is. There is a hole inside of WW that she can't fill. For now she thinks AP is filling that. She thinks that you or your MR is the cause of the hole, but you have to remember absolutely none of that is true. WW is deficient. She is broken and lost. She is grasping for band-aids and blame. No matter what contribution you have made in the MR not being perfect is irrelevant. You are eff-able. You are lovable. You are desirable and more so completely and totally worthy of love, of lust and everything in between.
