BL read up on stoicism and (perhaps more important) Amor Fati.
IT was mentioned on the board a few days ago and has helped me in viewing the world and things happening to me, which for me makes detachment easier.

This goes against what most say here, but IMO,if your child gets upset about OM then you can bring THAT up with W to say YOUR VIEW on things. It depends on the situation. However as mentioned here it is always better to "drop the rope" completely since you can never control it.


Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021