Dnj,

I’m confused. I am standing for my beliefs. What I mean by boundaries, if he got OW pregnant, if he became violent. That’s what I mean.

As you know, it is hard to show independence while the spouse still lives here.

I don’t seek him out, I don’t tell him my plans. I do my own things. It is only recent that i have felt ok to tell him about dinner.

Please let me know what I am doing wrong.

PLC