yes. I'm trying to let go of the resentment because it just keeps you imprisoned. I will say that she taught me so much about being a MIL and grandmother so that when my boys grow up, I hope to be asset to them. To encourage their marriages. To not overstep.
Looking at it objectively, she's not the devil. But she is someone who needs control and who can't stand not getting her way. If she wasn't given carte blanche, she'd raise hell. Everything ran on fear and intimidation. DH was terrified of her, but was not afraid of me because he knew I'd keep the peace. But that constant accomodating her at my expense eventually took its toll.
The truth is, I don't even know how I could have handled it differently. Probably I could have nicely set boundaries earlier. Maybe tried to talk to her? I don't know...I think about it often because if we did reconcile (and that seems pretty unlikely), if I didn't have an effective way of dealing with her then we would probably end up in the exact same position we are in now.
