yes it is 50/50. I fought him on 50/50 at first. I asked him to consider an arrangement where the kids would spend a couple nights at his house each week and have them 1-2 nights for dinner. I wanted to give the children a home base. He was adamant about 50/50. He has really stepped up as a dad. I'll give him that. I was part happy about that, but part hurt. Why couldn't he have done that while we were married?
MIL comes over and watches kids on his custody time. So she now has pretty much limitless access to the grandchildren. No dil telling her "we have plans on Saturday, but we can see you Sunday." Much better arrangement for her. No more calling me screaming I was keeping the kids from her despite the fact that she saw them two days earlier. Very little incentive for her to do anything but be a cheerleader for the divorce, if you get my drift.
It's tough. I'm still obviously very bitter. I'm working through it as best as I can.
