Yes to what bttrfly said. Have faith, you will get through this, and emerge very well.
Good for you retaining a lawyer. She is correct you cannot control H or whatever irrational idea he decides he wants to act upon. You do control you and how you respond. This is business. Let you L deal with H and his weaselly legal antics.
You see your fear and how far ahead you are looking. Very good by the way to recognize that - it’s a necessary step. Fear is paralyzing and obscures other possibilities by focusing upon the fear-inducing ones. It is possible H will change his mind. I don’t think H doesn’t expects you to stand up to him. I think you didn’t expect to stand up to him either. (((Hugs)))
Don’t back down. Let your L do her job and get you what you’re entitled too. Let her respond with that tack. There is no need to capitulate to H’s wild demands. He might actually be bluffing. He may negotiate. Or he may want to go to court. Don’t fret! Remember a lot of your concerns and fears will not come to pass. Sure, some will, and as they become reality the fear dissipates as the situation moves from imagined to real. And fear moves from irrational response to rational problem solving.
It is good to recognize the worse case scenarios. How about the best case? The likely case? Ensuring you have a complete picture helps alleviate fear. Fear feeds and lives in the dark recesses of our emotions. Shine some light; fear does not look nearly as scary as it was imagined to be.
cardinal, you are a strong person with much confidence. I know that it doesn’t feel that way at this moment.
Have faith.
Walk the path.
Become.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
