This is your NGS creepy in on you. You absolutely can’t nice her back. If she ever asks about the dog you can tell her what happened.
The point Sandi is is trying to make w/o telling you what to do is to remove yourself as an option. I understand you believe you are as you put it “curving in that direction”. Your W knows she can have you at the drop of a hat.
I want you to peek in on Steve’s thread. Not Steve85. His W has left him 5 times for other men. Do you want to risk something like that in the future when you have kids?