Walk Away Spouse Fits My Ex-Wife to a "T" - part 2

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In my situation at least, wouldn't the bigger issue have been my not staying in touch with who she is, who she became, and actively investing in the relationship?

Possibly, I lump this area into personal growth as well.

I'd rank the priorities during that period, in fact, as: 1) providing for the family; 2) raising well-adjusted children; 3) doing your best to keep your spouse happy; 4) staying physically healthy; 5) personal growth.

Now that you have the power of hind sight, what do you think the priorities should be ranked?

My wife will never see the new me. She has made that quite clear. But there will be another Mrs Tom someday. She will be the lucky beneficiary.

Since this is a save your marriage website, I default to the spouse as the target. But yes, all and every woman you interact with in the future.

I believe you intellectually, but the visceral feelings are usually on top.

Correct. Having the knowledge comes before changing our beliefs and behavior.