Unless OM is a threat to the children (registered sex offender or convicted child abuser) there isn't much you can do. She can introduce her kids to anyone she wants. Unfortunately that is how these things work. You have no control over it so stop obsessing over what you have no control over.
Hard to accept, but guess I'll have to - don't think it's right to be introducing kids to another partner at this point, let alone having him over on night she has the kids.
Originally Posted by Steve85
You just posted in my thread that you feel you are doing much better on detachment.......but this update ain't even close. So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back to DBing. Focus on what you can control: YOU. GAL, 180s, detachment. I'd love to see an update on how well you are doing those things.
I read your post on detachment in your thread and my response meant to convey it was perfect timing for me because I recognize failing with that very aspect of DB'ing last night - just meant to tell PLC while I'm doing better over the months, I still have lows.
In terms of focusing on me, I'm trying to do house projects and getting out to do activities with friends when I don't have the kids. I've struggled finding time to exercise, and need to get better there. I'm doing my best to be there for the kids and bending over backwards to see them before/after school (even on my "off" weeks), so that's been a lot to juggle, but they need the stability and 100% focus my W isn't giving them.
Last edited by BL42; 10/28/2002:16 PM.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
