Whats holding me here right now other than the fact I love this woman is the "hope" she is actually doing some soul searching and if she is grieving the OM and trying to process all of that and perhaps right now that's what's holding her back.
Coming home straight from the AP bed wasn't the plan but that's what happened and it could be that everything that she had wrapped up in that relationship is hitting her hard right now.
I watched my WW go through major withdrawal symptoms, including depression, about the end of both of her EAs. Do not mistake her mourning the loss of OM with remorse. It isn't the same. Remorse may come. In both cases my W eventually was remorseful for what she had done, but that can't happen while she is pining for OM, and sad that she can't have what they had or even what they promised each other in the future.
You do you. Focus on your. GAL, 180s, detachment. Leave her to work through her own stuff. That mourning period could last a few days, it could last a few months! You have no control over that.
Expect the worst, hope for the best.
Last edited by Steve85; 10/28/2001:11 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
