Quickly had to look up the word "thaw" as I didn't know the meaning. it is indeed just the right word to use. LOL
You are handeling the situation in the best way you can do.
My husband was constantly at home during the first COVID wave. He practically did not go outside and had enormous ups and downs. It is by no means easy to deal with and it weighs on your family. That is why you regularly have these sad feelings.
It makes it a bit easier for me at the moment because he is away on average for 4 weeks and then @ home for 1 week. This means that we have a sort of peace for ome time in a row. This of course makes it easier to be completely disconnected from him emotionally. I also feel that I am much stronger and finally feel like I don't need him anymore.
I'm there for him when he needs me. He sends messages daily, I never initiate myself. When he sends I always answer. He's much more involved with the family now than anything I've seen in recent years, even if from a distance. He also feels that I am not putting any pressure on him and I feel that altough in a very slow way, this is helping him move forward. The relationship between the two of us is respectful, and has been like this for about 3 months now.
Patience, patience, patience...the thing I used to hate the most, since the last 2 years I had to learn to embrace it. And I'm actually happy sometimes that this all happened to me as I learned so much about myself.
Originally Posted by PLC
In all of my introspection while sad this last week or so, I know I am able to forgive and move forward. I now know that. Will he know this and want it? Let’s hope. But either way, I like this version of me instead of angry me. PLC
I really like the above. Try to keep this feeling. It will not always work, but it helps so much to get rid of that angry feeling. Don't do this for H, do this for you...
