Thanks for responding. Looks like a unanimous "don't talk to W about it". It's just hard because I want to stand up for what's best for my kids and don't think the latest man on the scene should be introduced / spending time with him so soon.
I failed at DB'ing tonight. No, I didn't reach out to W at all but D2 came back from dinner with W's smart watch on so I snooped. The conversations were just like the ones with AP/OM1 6 months ago, only a different man/name to the texts. 100% confirmed emotional/physical affair with OM2, and apparently she's going on "double dates" with other couples I know. The most infuriating part is apparently she's sneaking him in after putting the kids to bed. What if they wake up and find mommy with another man??? S5 is already sad and angry - tearing up again today when hearing about mommy - he never used to be this way.
I know. I shouldn't have snooped. It doesn't help the situation and doesn't help me detaching - I'm riled up and shaking a bit - but had to know the full truth. At this point I recognize and accept W is not good for me anymore, but I absolutely hate what it's doing to our kids.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
