Turning lots of corners - DaB35 Part 8

[DaB35]

Wow, that is a lot about her. How is your detachment coming along?

Thanks for checking in Steve. Yes I know what that all looks like! I feel more detached than I was in the spring; nowadays I'm not thinking about XW all the time. But I'm still reminded of her every so often in various ways: something on TV, a song, certain types of food, a joke, etc. I guess that's just part of the whole process. What I am doing now however is channeling that into positive things for myself rather than wallowing.

Great, that's exactly what should be getting back to her. News about how awesome you're doing. As for her being annoyed, of course she is. She wants to hear that you are balled up in the corner of a room rocking and weeping uncontrollably over losing the greatness that is her. To hear that you seem to be doing great, probably while she is doing not-so-great, well it's not what she wants to hear. HER PROBLEM!

Thanks AS. Yes I agree. I think it's the assumption that I'm crying still in a darkened room or not owned my problems, and to then find out that I've done a complete 180 and been successful at it is what annoyed her. Anyway, I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing and know that I've improved so much as a person. I've never been this confident or had this much positivity about myself before, ever.

Have you read the Married Man Sex Life Primer? One of the topics he goes into is how we all have a "type". I like shorter women with curvy figures and sweet personalities. I have a buddy that favors women around 6' tall with some meat on their bones and sassy attitudes. If you attract someone enough to end up in a LTR with them then it's a safe bet that you are their "type" and it's very common that after a breakup that they pursue someone similar. Anyway the book makes an interesting point that after a breakup you still have a leg up on the competition because she already knows that you are her type. I think that's why so many WAS's end up pinging their exes way down the road. Dating is really hard to begin with, but going through all the random choices out there AND finding that someone that ticks all your boxes? Extremely difficult. So inevitably they circle back around to the person they already know is their type.

That's interesting. I will check that book out. That's a very intriguing concept.

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