I actually tend to agree with you on the plan b/ temp check motive. That's why I wanted to run it by the board.
LH,
Glad you're here. Its not a tactic. I've actually accepted that my marriage is over and am no longer using anything as a tactic. NC for me is because there is nothing to discuss and it helps me. I feel better not talking to her while knowing she is with OM and threw in the towel on our marriage.
Mumin,
I've created things that I would need to take her back. She said no to the first two basics.
- End relationship with OM -Commit to working on our marriage.