WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Don't Want Divorce (2)

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So I guess it's been three weeks since I've given a substantive update...

Encounter #2 with W's grandma for D2 pickup did not go well either. I had arranged in advance with W to pickup around 3:30 but when I showed up she did not want to let me take D2 and rather wanted me to wait an hour until W got home. I held firm and we want back and forth for 10 mins (I'm outside under an umbrella in the rain) and W had to call multiple times to communicate with her grandma. Finally I got D2 and went for dinner. Fortunately encounter #3 went smoothly as W's grandma and D2 were outside already and I picked up D2 and left. W had another conversation with grandma and apparently the message got across.

Otherwise I've been trying to balance work and the kids on the weeks I have them (and before/after school even on my off weeks) and staying busy / GAL'ing when possible. I got a ton of work done around the house this weekend, both inside and out, and went to a friends' house as the 7th wheel for dinner and games Saturday night.

Two items of note:
-Received an email from my L a judge is assigned to our case and preliminary conference is scheduled next month for the Ls and judge.
-Tonight, completely by accident (was not searching it out/snooping), I came across a picture on SM of my W at a mutual friend's house with OM2 in the background stroking her hair. It's even more of a confirmation. I definitely got me heated and brought out some anger. Our children are upstairs sleeping in bed and she'd rather be somewhere else with someone else. I know the kids have hung out with him, and that angers me too. Not sure what else to say but if the goal of detachment is not to care when I hear something like W getting married or pregnant by another man, I'm certainly not there yet. I do pretty well over the week, but things like this still rile me up. Guess I have work to do. I've avoided dating at all so far to make sure the kids are my #1 and also work through all this in my heart/head.