[DnJ]

Hello scout

being abandoned so totally in an instant has rewritten the very cells in my body with lifelong trauma.
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Even though I no longer love him, being ghosted by my spouse has permanently altered the fabric of my soul.

(((Hugs)))

I’ll tell you something, from a little further down the path.

Souls, and hearts, grow back.

We can and do heal and embrace our new reality. We live and love life again. And children do it much quicker and better than us stubborn adults.

I have no doubt that S2 (almost S3) is going to grow up just fine. How do I know? Look in the mirror. He has one great caring Mom.

It only takes one strong and stable parent. Don’t fret over the loss of the traditional family model. I lost plenty of sleep during my first months over my tore apart family. In reality, W/Mom left, a few friends left, and some relatives no longer reach out to us. That’s it. We are still a family. A strong family. It’s kind of inspiring living through this and knowing that.

Do not fear having age appropriate discussions and answering son’s questions. Feed his hungry mind. He needs answers and direction. And will find it elsewhere if not from you.

In the eyes of a child a parent is godlike, knows all, can ground them for eternity, can do anything, and loves them unconditionally.

Then around the teenager years, we must hit our head, for we become as dumb as a clump of dirt, apparently.

Then into the twenties we suddenly get smart again. Hooray!

And through it all, no matter how godlike or feet of clay we are, they know we love them.

And a lot of those answers and direction come from them watching how we live our lives, through all those years. Don’t ever sell the gal in the mirror short, she’s a pretty darn good example.

Yes XH is loosing out. S2 won’t. He will have awesome experiences with you. And by the way, you don’t need to try to fill in for absent Dad. I couldn’t be, and didn’t be, my kids’ Mom. Just upped my game a little. (Oh my, the birth control talk. Shudder. Lol)

You know, it’s a good thing to question and doubt all that stuff. That shows you recognize it, and you can then make a difference.

You got this!

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