It really does help reading and listening to people on here. I know i have made mistakes at the start and then again not that long ago but i really do feel as though i maybe turning the corner.
My week with S3 was great, concentrated on him and making our time memorable and something he always knows i'll be here.
W came pick him up yesterday, we were cordial and not a lot was said but there didn't need to be. W gave S3 hug and he didn't reciprocate but wanted hugs from me...at the same time as saying "I want to stay with daddy" and crying, It nearly broke my heart when he said this. For staters he has always been a mommy's boy and in the past would never leave her side. I gave him hugs and told him that I love him and he would be back with me in a week. and that he should have fun at mommy's. 20 mins past and W went to the master bedroom (I am living at the family home while she lives with her mother) and got a few things from her side of the wardrobe and this struck me a while later but she found an old Halloween costume she hadn't worn in 6 years. this struck me as weird because as long as i have known my W she has always (apart from one time) avoided costume parties. We have declined going to several occasions because they were costume only.
Very strange behavior for W. but i guess, this is what they do while in WAS/WAW mode?
anyway after this myself and S3 went out side and played on the grass, 1. for me to enjoy the last few minutes with him for the next week and 2 to distract him before before getting in W car. It worked, we said our goodbyes and he seemed more relaxed. The thing i enjoyed and was proud of was, I totally paid attention to him, W was not there as far as I was concerned. Whether she noticed i don't really care. Very happy with my detaching.
Last night i received a text from her saying that my favorite bad would be on TV. I wasn't aware of this. I text back after 30mins and said I wasn't aware they were on, thank you. W reply was no worries thumbs up emoji. I know not to read to much into this, normally i would have text back with something like, thanks was good but i didn't, another detaching win in my books.
In other news W is still wanting to sell the house, she got a valuation last Friday and sent that through today, real estate agent told her that the garden needs updating. W hasn't said anything but i am waiting for her to ask if I will do it.
Part of me wants to say no! i don't want to sell the house but the other part of me is about the full detachment and get on with selling the house and moving on. Any advice??
