Thank you for chiming in. I took some time and read your situation. I see how you see as my therapist would call them, “thaws” where maybe he speaks then he reverts back to his current person.
I need to remember, the person that is ignoring me is not the H I married.
I did have a couple little thaws, last night I made dinner, he had come home early due to weather. When dinner was ready I texted him that dinner was ready if he felt like it. He just responded thanks so I went ahead, ate dinner and began cleaning the kitchen up. He came in for dinner, took it to the bedroom, ate then came back and thanked me. I just told him he was welcome.
The second one, was I came home from work for lunch and he was home. The bedroom was closed so I did as I usually do, made lunch then relaxed. He came in said hi and asked if I was home on lunch. I replied then mentioned how windy it was. He responded back about where he had to be this morning. When I went to leave the bedroom door was ajar, so I announced I was leaving and he said bye.
Do I think this means anything? No. But I do appreciate that he can speak to me. I do not plan on letting him know when dinner is ready every night. But I am trying to show him I am not going to get mad that he took off for the weekend.
You’re right. We are all here for each other. This is all I have unless you count my therapist!
