Just an update. Things continued in the same way for a bit, but eventually his anxiety was so bad that I have pretty much cut contact. He clung and fought back initially, but he's calmed down now. I literally think my life would be better without him right now. I literally think the kids would be better off without him. He's just so emotional and sensitive. I have tons of empathy for him. I feel awful that he can't handle stress or change or the list of things that are a problem for him. But his actions have become irresponsible and harmful. The bottom line is that he's causing more damage than good. We're still living together but split time with the kids. No family stuff. I did invite him to a Halloween party the kids and I are attending. I pitied him, which feels gross. He said thanks, and I'm expecting him to not go. He's withdrawn from everyone except coworkers. Anyways, I can't see this lasting much past the holidays. So, yay acceptance?
The kids are increasingly angry with him, and it's really difficult to just listen and not engage. Other than that, everything has improved. We've all strengthened our relationships with family and friends. We spend more quality time together. I have a social life again. Work is great. It's actually sad that everything but this one area is better. But it is what it is.
