So he is abroad again and the 1st week he was back there was a very strange week.
His grandmother and mother both fell ill and were diagnosed with COVID. Since his mother is single and was not allowed outside, I made the necessary arrangements to provide her with food and drink. He really appreciated this. He also felt very guilty that he wasn't here to help.
Suddenly I got a message in the evening, for the first time in 20 months, that he misses us all very much (normally he says this sometimes about the children, now it was the first time that he included me as well) I answered very briefly that we missed him too.
That same evening, he also called his father (biological) asking for forgiveness for all the lies he told him the past years. He also said that one day he hopes they can be best friends again, as they have always been in the past.
After a few days the atmosphere turned again and slid completely back into the ME mode. This took about 4 days.
From then on a very normal man who is concerned, sends a few messages every day, asks if I have everything I need, etc.
I have the impression that the pendulum moments are still present but that he starts to act more and more in a normal way. He also starts skype sessions with other relatives. The moments when I see "a normal man" last longer and longer.
Maybe I see it too positively, but I am simply set up that way :), and unfortunately I cannot and do not want to change myself in that area.
Next week it's Holiday and me and the kids are going on a hiking trip with our best friends. Looking forward to that. The children don't talk about anything else anymore.
