Midlife wife crisis 15

[may22]

I’m sorry, I don’t mean to post unhelpful feedback or impose my moral beliefs on others. I really don’t. I thought he was genuinely looking for feedback, not just support for his decisions.

I meant— I don’t understand why she was living there without paying rent in the first place— it doesn’t make sense to me regardless of whether or not they were together. And then to extract a couple hundred dollars a month because she is no longer a couple but is carrying his child seems odd.

I’m not saying he has to marry her or let her live there. I’m saying he will soon have a financial obligation to his child anyway, so charging her for a few months’ worth of rent seems petty when that will be a drop in the bucket once the child is born. And, maybe the best option is to help her find her own place and start paying child support now. There are a lot of studies on the effects of maternal stress on the fetus and if I were him I’d be doing everything I could to support her and minimize her stress, regardless of whether or not I wanted to be involved in a romantic relationship with her.

And... yes, she’s an adult woman. And probably feeling more alone and stressed and scared than she ever has in her life. Imagine being in her shoes for a second. Unemployed, pregnant, not in a relationship with the father. I’m sure this is not how she imagined having her first baby. It’s a stressful situation for everyone involved.

Anyway, I’ll stop posting on this thread. Apologies, Wolfman.