I at least think he may need some anger management
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He is not a super romantic
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the reason I've stuck with him is because typically he will do the tiniest things to adjust that I recognize are not in his usual nature and that show me he is trying.
Does it? Or is he doing the “tiniest thing” = bare minimum to get you to stop asking him for whatever it is you need?
There’s a HUGE difference between DBing to save a marriage, and DBing a dating relationship. Sounds to me like there are bigger issues here than just an inappropriate ex girlfriend.
This early in a relationship things should be really GOOD. Your partner should be appreciating you for your great qualities. (And they are great qualities). But you might be trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. This is a guy who has CHOSEN crazy in the past. Repeatedly, apparently. Some guys are attracted to the excitement of the drama-filled crazies (just like some women seek out the “bad boys”) and they’re not suited to a real, mature relationship with an adult human being.
I think this goes a lot deeper than just meeting the ex- girlfriend. Sounds to me like you’re working WAY to hard to make this relationship work, when he may not be the droid you are looking for. Sounds like maybe your fear of loss is leading you to try to make this relationship work when he’s just not that great a fit for you? And this ex-GF business is just highlighting the difference in your values?
