Fierce compassion, equanimity, integrity

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And let me add this here from Sage's thread, because we touched on boundaries in the work presentation today too:

And you handled it in the right way - not as punishment, but simply acknowledging that it hurts you too much for him to be there at this time. You're not shutting the door, you're just not allowing him to abuse you. It's setting a healthy boundary. You can be kind and have healthy boundaries at the same time. Stick to the high road but at the same time don't let him cross those healthy boundaries.

My immediate reaction was just, yeah, H has his life; I have mine, and I don't wish to share a house with him anymore. I know I sound like a broken record. But this feels desire feels healthy to me! Only I can't move out myself, so it's not a boundary I can put in place yet. I guess kml's words were just a reminder for me that not wanting to live with H doesn't have to mean I don't care for him or that I'm unkind.