Bravo to you for trying dating apps but I haven't thought for even a moment about starting that way!
I prefer to meet people in person, but eHarmony is worth considering you're divorced and eligible. I had only good experiences, or interesting experiences that made good stories.
Originally Posted by tom_h
Don't all divorcees have to eventually talk about their exes? Whether it was 10 years or 30, that relationship had a huge influence on their life, and who they are today! So would it be better to say what you're looking for is whether they have settled feelings about their ex and their former marriage?
I want to see *everything* settled. I can hang out with anyone for 2-3 hours without discussing my ex-wife, previous boss, or childhood. If you can't help but bring up on a first date how they wronged you, your current struggles with them, or how my preferences compare--you have work to do. It's not uncommon to do light probing about ex's on 2nd or 3rd dates to feel out for baggage. It's not uncommon for ex's to come up occasionally once you're in a relationship, e.g. "Our hand-off is at 6pm, so anytime 6:15pm or later is good." I probably more directly talked about my ex 1-2x per year in my last relationship, mostly about future choices like how to jointly attending a graduation or promotion ceremony and the afterparty.
