It's possible that such is the case because these women are all dating too soon, e.g., not following DB rules! That certainly makes sense. And while all the DBers may not have experienced this, we need to understand that most of the world does not follow DB principles!
Paid dating apps do some filtering for you. E.g., eHarmony doesn't allow married people. As you know, divorces take time, since you're 13 months separated but not divorced yet. I found about 1 in 10 first dates had enough ex baggage they brought up their ex's. That was an acceptable rate for me. A friend required anyone she met to have been divorced for at least one year because she had a lower tolerance for dealing with baggage. She'd taken a year off, and wanted others to have put the same effort in.
I mean to say, having a good dating experience has less to do with expecting others to be DBrs, and more to do with setting and maintaining standards as to whom you're willing to date.
