We're all screwed up sometimes, but yes Tom without some sort of evidence or context that statement is weird. There's plenty of gals just like you going through tough times, putting in the work to heal, and moving forward. You'll turn all of them away too if you make statements like that.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
I almost replied to the "most people" and "single women between 50 and 65" comment earlier. Weird theory. I know more women aged 45-55 than 55-65, but based on them, strongly disagree.
Roger that, I'm really just quoting friends who have been through this ahead of me, who recall the difference between when they were in the 20s and single, and more recently in their 50s. Back in their 20s, they rarely had alarm bells go off, but dating today they see baggage and trouble nearly all the time. I didn't mean to slight women, I have my own baggage, fully on display here! But since I don't date men I'm don't really care if men have baggage too, from a dating perspective.
The comments I've gotten from friends is that a lot of women are either still angry about their marriage or are terribly wounded. Many of them are in severe financial trouble as well. It doesn't take long for it to come out, either. I've already seen that myself, see the first thread if interested.
It's possible that such is the case because these women are all dating too soon, e.g., not following DB rules! That certainly makes sense.
I can understand this. I dated actively from age 16 to 26 and rarely encountered someone who, I would later learn, I should have steered clear of. But the reports from men today at least in my circle are otherwise. And while all the DBers may not have experienced this, we need to understand that most of the world does not follow DB principles! I suppose that's why the divorce rate for second marriages is 60-70% per Steve85. Hopefully that number is far lower for DBers.
