Now, if the girl couldn't go shopping without you tagging alone, then maybe she wants to feel she can do a few practical things by herself. I think it goes hand in hand with feeling smothered.
Yes this is exactly what she means and I have absolutely no problem with it, I never have. She went from living with parents to being married to me and so she has never really had that independence and never expressed the want for it until now. I think she recognises this as a problem within her that she was too dependant on other and since she has just recently learned to drive so it has opened up the ability to have that independence.
Originally Posted by sandi2
You freak when she's gone four hours (supposing at mum's). What's with you, needing so much phone contact with her during the day?
I does freak me a bit now yes but I can tell you I didn't freak before all of this because there was trust.
That said I actually think this goes deeper than trust and goes to how I am thinking about things and how I am viewing her right now. I feels like this continued behaviour is almost intentional to try and push me to a point where I will end things but that I think comes from the previous manipulation before when we where separated and she was telling me she couldn't just end things with OM to basically save face. Of course Sandi could be bang on and it could well just be that she just does not have the capacity right now to give me any validation or reassurance, or behaving in a way that would show me she is actively working on the MR.
Going back to the advice though I understand not to expect balance and logic right now so the above is more about venting whats in my head and not letting that drive my actions.
