Great post ovr! BL just yesterday I could, for the first time, really clearly see why my sitch happend. To begin with M/R was a SSM since our first child and W is probably HD. That combined with me being NG and her not being good at talking about her feelings makes for a perfect case of building resentment and losing respect over the years.
It might take you a while but really do look to your core, your values and your behavior. Over time you will understand more and more.
"people don't make positive changes until the pain of changing is less than the pain of staying the same." Holy sh0t That's strong! Also means my W will probably never change.
Last edited by Mumin; 10/21/2007:42 AM.
Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021
