I’m sorry your going through this, i have been there myself with my W in a PA a couple times, we always recon’d and this BD she filed and I don’t see any OM. That’s what makes me worry. She left the home without telling me and that sucked I attacked yesterday and it was bad. I had to apologize for it and she said “I understand” each and every time I say something sideways to her she gets pushed farther away. And each and every time I act right she comes closer. I don’t know if our M can make it this time but I’m am certain if I don’t control myself it lowers the chances every time. I’ve gone off on her like 3 times in the last 2 months since BD. Don’t feel too bad we all do it. Please do whatever you can to stop. I also fight the urge to reach out to her, tell her I love her and I’m sorry for taking her for granted, beg her to reconsider, she has showed hesitation in her no before when I asked but she’s still setting up shop elsewhere and even set up the kids room elsewhere. So yeah pushing is really not helping either of us at all. I think we tend to be the ones losing something at first and we panic and we everything we are gonna lose. As long as we cannot detach, act as if and let go they won’t get to the phase they are losing anything and true recon won’t happen. If you do want to save your M try to think “not calling her is giving me a better chance to save the M” or “standing for my M alone means standing for my M alone” I try to do that, I’ve messed up but I have wrote probably 50 texts I never sent her just thinking those 2 things.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
