I wanted to reply to this as well but my last post was getting very long:
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A new friend, about age 55, told me the story of his WAW from about 10 years ago. I'll spare you the details, but he said that the pain never goes away. Never goes away. Last year, this friend remarried a lovely woman, stunning in fact, and is very happy. But he says that every day, during some moment of quiet, he feels pain because his first love, and his beautiful young family, fell apart. [I think his new wife must be a saint.] "It hurts every day, Tom," he said.
I would say this is different for each person. BD for me as almost 10 years ago as well. The pain did absolutely go away for me, I do not feel any pain or regret or anger or anything negative over what happened. One chapter of my life closed, and another chapter opened. It wasn't what I planned, but as John Lennon said, "life is what happens while you're planning for something else." I had a great marriage. It ended, but that does not make it any less great. I wouldn't trade the experience for anything, even had I known in the beginning how it was going to end.
You've mentioned your faith a few times, as a reader of the Bible tell me this, is it filled with stories of people who had perfect, happy lives from beginning to end? Or is it filled with people who have had to face all kinds of crazy, shocking, life-altering adversity and somehow survived and even came out better for having gone through it?
