I obviously have know way of knowing one way or another but I tend to think so. Without remorse there can be no reconciliation. Without her willing to put in the effort to work on the marriage there can be no sustaining reconciliation. Without her seeing you as a person of value there can be no reconciliation. The problem is that the LBS can see no value in themselves so why do they expect the WW to see value in them. People want to be with people that they feel good about not people they can walk all over.
If at bomb drop the LBS said “you know what I wasn’t my best self I would love for you to stay and work with me on the marriage but if you want to go be with so and so good luck with that. Then filed for divorce and went and built a great life. The recon rate would be high. The problem is the LBS does the complete opposite and that is why it is so low. That’s what DB is about. It’s becoming the man/woman who is able to walk away from situations that don’t work for him/her. If you buck the system go read Wolfmans story. Go read Andrew Ps story in the surviving divorce section and see what ends up happening.
Remember that you don’t get in life what you deserve you get what you negotiate. In a negotiation you have to be willing to walk away from a deal that does not work for you.
