Remember WMWB: ACTIONS speak louder than words. I get very frustrated with LBSs on this forum saying:

"She said this....or she said that......" "He said this, so I know I am right about how he feels....."

WORDS ARE MEANINGLESS. Actions. Your W leave for 4 hours. Did she really go to her Mums? WW's capacity to lie is OFF THE CHART. Even if she did go to Mums, did she stay there for 4 hours? My W when she was a WW would often do what she said she was going to do.....but then do a whole lot more too. "I am going to the grocery store." 2 hours later (the grocery store was 5 minutes from our house), she come back with a three bags of groceries. Because she was engaging her EAP in the parking lot, while she shopped, etc.

ACTIONS. Not words. Her actions to me are clear that she is still a WW. She didn't come back because she wanted to save the marriage. Plan A (OM) fell through, so she landed safe and sound in the safety net of Plan B (you).

So start commanding respect again. You can't control her, but you certainly can control you.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018