Gerda’s situation, and her wisdom, is a good caution.
The path of the LBS is twofold - the emotional / healing side and the business side. Keep them separate.
If you need financial protection and security, then get it. Treat it like a business deal gone bad.
Yes, my XW dumped me, left, and divorced in record time. There is something to be said for expedience. I do believe that a better deal can be made sooner than later. MLCer’s at the beginning, soon after BD, usually are guilty and more willing to give up kids, money, assets - to assuage their guilt and/or to just get away, as is my XW’s case.
That sounds kind of bad, doesn’t it? Me so coldly laying it out like that. It is business; stay in the intellectual realm and make decisions from there.
Your emotional and healing path. Be kind and compassionate. Find detachment and indifference. Discover that these tenets are not exclusive from each other; they actually mesh quite well.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
