Just a quick update. It’s been a while since I have posted. Wife has yet to bring up any relationship talk. I ended up spending thanksgiving with wife and kids. She had invited me out and I agreed to go. She was sort of hot and cold during the visit. She wants to increase the amount of time I have with the kids per week. I was fine with that. After the visit I was driving back to the apartment. I realized I did not feel fulfilled and why I was putting myself through this pain. Don’t get me wrong it was nice to see everyone but I just felt really empty and sad. I’m wondering if I should put a stop to these visits. And do I tell her it’s nothing me or just leave it?
Tim! Re-read Sandi's rules about DB and then score yourself. Did you pass or did you fail? Were your strong or were your milquetoast? Did you show neediness, did you act the entire evening as if you were a puppy waiting for her to say something sweet?
If true, no wonder you were unfulfilled at the end of the evening. Your expectations were all wrong, as were your actions. You were expecting that this one single evening would be a major step on the road to recovery. No!
Examine how you acted and report back to us. Really. That's how we can help you.
