Walk Away Spouse Fits My Ex-Wife to a "T" - part 2

[Rose888]

Yes, you are asking for others to share their experiences, but how do you think that will help you? How will that help you settle your heart?

I'm not suggesting you bury or forget things. I'm suggesting that you will likely never know what was going through your ex-wife's mind, or why she did and said the things she did and said. Rather than pursue knowledge you are unlikely to ever get, learn to make peace with not knowing.

As a former brooder, I will tell you that one of the main benefits of the counseling I went to as a result of my Bomb Drop was learning that I could, in fact, teach myself to stop brooding. It's still a struggle some times, but being able to turn off the brooding benefits all areas of my life.