Sometimes I wish my wife would be angry, at least that is an emotion, anger means sometimes that the spouse wants to punish you for hurting them to make you feel something. That's a good chance to validate, validate, validate, then the guilt of punishing you may stop it.
My wife feels nothing for me, indifference, no guilt, no shame, no tears, doesn't care that its hurting the kids, she lives with us but is never home, its like she is not even the same person. Like she died and some other woman replaced her that is selfish and emotionless to me or the children she loved like 2 months ago....
It [censored] that your dealing with all that crap, the anger, the atty war. Maybe that anger can subside after some time. I feel like the moment I tell my stbxw that I wont watch the kids every single nite so she can spend it with OM she will get that way. She has threatened me and said "things will get a lot different now." She is only the way she is since I am not fighting this D or trying to hold back her single life dreams. I figured if I just sit back and take care of the kids the more time she spends with OM the sooner it will fizzle out / the honeymoon phase ends and reality can take hold. If I fight that makes her A excting to run to. But Ill admit it doesn't help me feel any better when she tells me "stay strong your a good man, im sorry" either way this still [censored].. I never wanted my kids to have a step-dad, Im actually a good father.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
