My wife and I used to text back and forth throughout the day, now she just goes to work and I hear nothing from her at all day unless I reach out to her (had your lunch? etc). I ask her how work is going and she never asks about me or how my work is. Is very frustrating.
This is a common mistake LBS make. On BD the WAS says "I want less of you", and your reaction is to try to give her more of you.
So what used to happen? That is not the reality now. What I am telling you is that you reaching out "had your lunch?" is pressure and pursuit. #1 rule of DBing is remove all pressure and pursuit. WASs are like a cat. If you reach for the cat they will run away. If you sit quietly and make no sudden moves, the cat might come to you of their own accord and jump into your lap.
I am noticing some NGS tendencies. You might want to look into the book No More Mr. Nice Guy.
I agree with Steve85 here. You need to back off.
You also need to understand that she might be trying to test whether she really CAN live without you. You can hardly blame her, given the state her head is at. Pursuing her will push her further away and make it quite clear to her that she neither wants nor needs you. Keep it businesslike and level, all communications, and limit it to the essential ones.
My WAW/STBXW went through that. We had very little written correspondence over the first 12 weeks, but I saw the tenor of her writing change, from pain and apology (with signoffs of "love" and "fondly") to, eventually, very flat and businesslike writing without a signoff, or maybe a "sincerely." I'd known her a long time, she had concluded after 3 months that, yes, "after 30 years with Tom I CAN live without him." There is nothing I could have done to change that. She moved out just to test whether that was possible.
