The legal process is slow and exhausting and expensive. I can't wait for things to work their way through but it's going to take several more months minimum given my X's recalcitrance. She's refused to work at all even though she has a higher education than I do, for instance. Throw reason out the window -- let's pay lawyers a bunch of money. Frustrating...
I've noticed in the last month or so, I will periodically have 2-3 days of peace -- no lawyer interaction, no bullying/harassing e-mails from my X on one thing or another (my favorite this month -- insisting I reimburse her for a $1 bank transaction fee). The peace feels incredible. But then I get another e-mail, or look at my credit card bill, or she's pestering me about something with the kids (always a criticism of something minor). I've learned to deal with it and go about my day, but I can't wait to get to a more stable situation. I know the coparenting will be an issue to deal with for the long-term.
My kids seem to be doing great and I'm proud of keeping them out of the conflict the best I can. They still have remote school in my state and the days I have them are crazy -- working full-time while keeping the older two focused on work and the youngest happy with activities. I'm exhausted at the end of those days but they are very rewarding too.
Stay safe everyone and keep focusing on what you can control.
