It's been a long time since I posted here. A lot of changes since then..
HB ended the affair around February 2020. However, he and OW continued to chat on Facebook and text.
About 2 weeks ago he deleted his Facebook account (and Messenger). I no longer catch him quickly looking at texts and messages from her. All this new behavior is great!
The downside is that he gets depressed every weekend. He does nothing all weekend long and states "I'm just doing what I do best... sleep and eat." He usually ends up getting mad at me and it carries through the next week.
This past Sunday he was upset and when I asked him why he said he was just mad at the world. Well, that translated into him sleeping on the couch all week and barely talking to me. Once again he has a hard time looking at me.
My assumption is that they did break it off. This was about the time 2 years ago that the affair started. Is he mourning the affair? Is there anything I should avoid doing or saying?
Yes, he is in a depression over the loss of his affair. This is very common. All you can do is stay out of the way and let him mourn. Might take him a day, might take him a year. It is out of your control, just as is the possibility of starting up again.
Focus on what you can control (IE, that is you).
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
