Hey Tim.

Checking in on you man. I’m not here to give advice to you, I’m in your boat in a way. The experienced people give us advice we read and think it doesn’t apply to us perfect. We think Steve is great and his advice is good then and then LH passes us some hard truth (hard to hear sometimes i admit) and we think again, then another poster Cwarrior or someone else weighs and and we are all over haha. I get it man, what I look for is not what one of the caring people that take time for us here says but what a few of them say that sort of makes a thread. Everyone that responds to me I go back and dig up thier sitch, see where they succeeded and failed. Many of them were just like us at some point. Don’t beat yourself up. The only reason these people even help us is cause they have been us mistakes and all. They shake the head when we don’t learn but understand and keep pushing us to win. You gotta see at some point that you pushed the right thing and be happy with that. I feel I’m there. I did everything pretty dang close to right and she straight up said so. She even kissed me and went from “your not a plan Z even” to just give me some time in 24 hours! I thought I had for sure blew it totally with mistakes a couple weeks ago. She is hot and cold, she sends mixed messages, she has her fun but when i respectfully and remain in the masculine and withdraw she comes to me. I have to say what these folks say isn’t fluff. It’s works but we tend to think we can be different and etc. well, to a very small extent yes we have our own specifics but ultimately no, a waw/ww is pretty dang cookie cutter. So do yourself a massive favor, read sandies rules. And don’t take every interaction so serious. If you truly believe your changing and your a great man she will have no choice but to believe it too. Let the time work for you. Don’t be insecure. Don’t do like I do. We can do this. I have a lot of love for you, I feel like we can be champs if we believe that and stop being chumps. Please buy no more Mr nice guy from Amazon it’s like 12 bucks. It opens your eyes man! Do it! <3

Last edited by Steve_; 10/16/20 04:03 AM.
T:11
M:10
K: D5, S7
BD: 9/1/20
WW continues to break up and recon with OM.
I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021
Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21.
Glad my D was not busted.