Need advice on stubborn W

[AKuei]

Totally agree with you on this Steve. I'm glad I didn't give up on therapy when the W stopped going. Now that I've let the cat out of the bag about my inner fears, I feel better about myself. Not necessarily about the M but I guess this is at least a start.

I'm taking some time to grief the loss of my M and try to be positive about life without the W in it. As much as I want the M to stay intact, I can only clean up my side of the street and the rest is up to the W.

I was re-reading sandi's threads and alot of things resonated with me now (it didn't happen when I first read it during the initial stages of my sitch). I've practically handed my balls to the W because of my insecurities. She has lost all respect for me because I have no confidence in myself at all. I have to stop saying that the kids will suffer the most in this sitch; they will turn out good/better even with a single parent if I put my best foot forward.

So for a start; any advice on how I can get my balls back? haha!