I agree with Steve85 for what it's worth, I Just read it and wow. its really amazing and trust me its not what you think, it goes a whole lot deeper. You will see how being a nice guy, isn't nice at all. I think you gotta 180 my friend. If you were always "nice" you need to stop that. My wife told me her reason was that she felt I took her for granted and didn't care. Now I don't pursue but I do things to make her life easier. She has definitely noticed, she has not decided to come back yet, but it seems like she is second guessing it now.
I wont get my hopes up (I am I know I am but im trying not to) and I know that wise DB'ers have said that the consistent 180's are how they see your changes and trust in them. Time kills us but it is on our side too. Sometimes we gotta do the opposite of what we think. It rips my heart out not to tell her "don't leave, please..etc" But I think that actually helped quite a bit to not do it.
Good luck, you CAN do this!
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
