Ughhh! I am so tired of the freaking lies. I told my wife I was going away this weekend a couple of days ago. She in turn tells me she also made plans to go away for the weekend with her BFF. This morning I asked her what time she was leaving tomorrow because I needed her to drop me off at the car rental place. I am renting a car for the 4 hour drive out of state. My car is old and I only use it to drive locally. We use the W car for everything else.
She tells me she is leaving after 10:30 so she can definitely drop me off before that. I then made the mistake of asking why she was taking her car for the weekend. Note: my W never drives long distance. I do all the driving when we are together and the same with her BFF. She does all the driving. She proceeds to tell me some convoluted story as to why they are taking 2 cars and driving separately. I just looked at her, said ok and walked away knowing that it was a total lie.
I've known my W for 25 years and we have been together for 21. I totally know when she is lying.
She comes to me a half hour later totally upset spewing about how she is tired of feeling anxious around me and if I want to know the truth, here it is. Her BFF is only going for the night. She is leaving Saturday afternoon and my W decided she wanted to stay until Sunday. She then proceeds to start raising her voice, saying she doesn't understand why she always has to explain herself to me, she is tired of feeling like she is always doing something wrong, etc. I just tried to validate. I asked a simple question, why were they taking 2 cars? It wasn't an accusation or interrogation. I've never had an issue with her going out with her BFF.
Now, I can't help wondering why she felt the need to lie in the first place and why the anxiety and obvious guilt. My gut feeling, the OW is going to spend Saturday night with her after her BFF leaves. Note, her BFF knows the OW because they all work together. But her BFF does not know that they are having an A or that they are even 'friends" outside of work. Nobody in her life knows this woman exists except for me because I accidentally discovered the A.
It is going to drive me insane on Saturday wondering if they are actually together. I am so glad I will be with my BFF and pray that she can keep my mind occupied as much as possible. I've made up my mind that I am going to go stay with my sister. Haven't decided when I'm leaving but it will be in the next few weeks. She wants a separation, I am giving it to her. No idea when and if I will be back.
