I didn't even get a letter. The one time I got involved in an R talk, I said something like "this all seems so easy for you." She said something like "it's really hard for both of us." We rarely talked about anything other than the kids after that. I'm sure it's a difficult decision for a WAS, but they are convinced they are doing the right thing. No contact just makes it easier for them to deal with what they are doing. So, I think it's less about the attorney and more to help them move forward with their decision.