I am so proud of you and your children! It sounds like it started out being a very tense day, but in the end, everything went well and all of you had a nice day with many pleasant memories. Congratulations to the new husband and wife. I'm sure that they are glad it is over and can now focus on the future.
Well done!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.