The wedding that was suppose to take place on June 20th ( the day of Bomb 11 uears ago ) got push to Oct 10th ( my parents' wedding day, my ex mother-in-law' s bday. no need to say that i liked this daye better. ) because of Covid.
I spent countless sleepless night worrying about this day. I knew ex-h would be there with his gf.
On Saturday morning, son seemed very quiet. I asked him if he had a good sleep and he said he didn' t feel good. I kept my eyes on him. A bit later, he tells me that he will probably be driving back to his place after the wedding supper. I told him : " you do know it is a 5 hour drive right? ". He jumps up angry and says: " the other one ( his dad ) has my suit and he won' t answer my text or calls. He wants to make sure i' ll have to go to his room and i' ll be stuck with him and his gf all night. He will ruin it for me. I' m gonna go drive around a bit. Do you want a coffee when i come back? "
Me: " yes please! " ( scared that he might just go home. )
While he was away, i told his sisters what was happening and we came with a plan B. Bring 2 vehicule so if ex-h is messing with any one of us, some can leave and some can stay. Plus, we would shield my son.( meaning one of ud be by his side at all time ). I also added: " your dad never showed his Jekyll & Hyde side to mononcle Jasmin therefor, if he starts, go sit with mononcle and you will see his attitude change very quickly.
We left North Bay at 2pm and arrived at the resort around 4h15. My sisters were already there.
The ceremony was taking place on the beach. There was 44 of us present. The first few row were reserved for immediate family. First row was for me and my children. To the left, the groom' s parents, brother and sister. Behind me, ex-h, huge space ( big enough for another chair wich was NOT the way they were placed when we arrived ), beside her, my BIL, sister, other BIL , sister.
I was very nervous. My sisters could see it and use humour to cheer me up. The ceremony was fun, unusual and yet very BEAUTIFUL!
Daughter did not ask ex-h to walk her down the isle she walked alone and gave herself to her future husband.
Photos: again, me and my kids as a group. Ex-h sneaked his wat into a few of them by standing beside me while leaving a space in between us. His gf was taking pics.
Supper: table of honour was bride, groom, the 2 brides maid and their bf, the 2 groomsmen and their gf. First table, me and my kids. Beside us, Groom' s family. Third in the corner, ex-h, gf and adult friends of the bride and groom. Next row , uncles, aunts. Third row, friends.
Again, a huge space between ex-h and gf. I was under the impression he did NOT want her to come.
Ex-h approached me on many occasions. Our pack was looking out for eachother. ( i felt very safe and so did they.) He was very polite, kind and loving to ALL OF US. ( i felt, just a little bit, sorry for his gf).
Speaches: the groom' s father honoured both, his son and my daughter. He also added that he beleives his son his an amazing guy because he has her by his side and she makes him a better man.
Ex-h: he shared a memory of my daughter when she was about 6 months old. He came to tears while sharing his story. All of a sudden, the speach turned into all 4 children. How proud he his of them, how smart they are, how dumbfounded he feels when having serious talk with them and again, tears in his eyes says ( while looking straight at me): It his really hard for me to be here. I want to say so much more but i have taken enough of your time. He then looks at the bride and grooms and cheers.
We all looked at one another, shaken up and very vulnerable.
We did not have a dance, we had a bonfire on the beach of the resort. We needed to change in the truck. I was cold in my little dress. Once everyone had changed, we decided to go to the bathroom before going to the beach. I asked D17 to come with me incase i met ex-h and gf. And we did. Ex-h tried to do small talk and i cut him off saying i had to go badly. D17 looked at me with a little smile and relief. Oh, forhot to mention, resort and beach, 90 steps up and 90 steps down.. lol
We were last to arrive. Ex-h jumps up and offers me his spot. I gently refused and stayed standing. BIL gets up and tells ex-h to sit with his gf that he was gonna go sit with his.lol ( my sister. married for 40 years). Ex-h sits but at the end of the bench beside where i was standing. Again, we all looked at eachother with a " what on earth?" kind if look.
My circle got bigger and bigger.. we were laughing and having a good time. My family left around 8pm to drive back. They stayed at D25' s house for the night.
Gf was just sitting there being ignored all night. Ex-h stood up and came standing by me while the kids were sharing crazy teenager's stories they had. Ex-h laughed for the first time since his arrival. At 11pm, he asked if we would be leaving soon as it was getting late and we had a 2 hour drive. I said: yes, soon. He said he was going to bed. He kissed our kids good night, said bye to everybody and came straight infront of me and said: " i wanted to say more earlier remember? Well, what i wanted to say was thank you for raising our kids so well. They make me very proud and i only have you to thank for it. Please, be careful on the road, drive safe, take care and thanks again!
As they walked towards the stairs, gf grabbed ex-h' s hand and he pulled away from her.
I feel a separation on the horizon for those 2.
Our final thought!! Great night for ALL OF US! Sadden by ex-h but son said: " i feel bad for him to but he got himself in that position. It is up to him to build the bridges he destroyed" .
no need to say that i liked this daye better. 