Just dropped by to update my profile ticking over another year. Browsed through some of my last threads and they echo how I feel. "Groundhog day". I figured so much stuff out, came to clear understandings of many aspects of this crisis, have overcome obstacles, set and achieved objectives YET my M and R and how I feel about it echo through my posts and through the years.

Despite my personal struggles with not wanting to continue to live like this, I still believe a certain potential is present. I guess it's my version of Foreveryoung's signature: because she's still worth it. Our actual R isn't worth continuing but our potential one is worth it.

However it's time to mix things up. Time to look at what I can change and how I can live better. I've done that before but this time I want to go outside the box or at least outside what I view as my constraints. Most of what I write is just to help me see things that otherwise would be missed. That's why posting here is so helpful especially in the beginning when the LBS is struggling.

Our 14th W anniversary is upcoming followed closely by our 25th year together. It's also my sixth anniversary of realising how messed up our M was and wanting to save it.

Until next time best wishes fellow DBers.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together