The general rule on sex and affection is that, unless she is in a PA, you can reciprocate IF she initiates, but you shouldn't be initiating yourself. You initiating is pressure and pursuit and you should be avoiding all pressure and pursuit right now. IF she is in a PA, or if you even suspect one, then all affection and sex should be turned down. Protect your own health.
Ok thanks.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
She literally went from OM’s arms to yours. while she might have some regrets, her feelings for you or OM aren’t turned on and off by light switches .
Would you even want that? Because if she can’t turn her feelings back in so quickly, I’m sure she can turn them off quickly as well. And that’s not a good thing.
Unfortunately with you taking her from OM’s bed into yours, she is skipping a necessary healing and self work period. You’ll have to be patient while it unfolds in front of you
I understand that this is going to take time and that she needs time and is grieving the relationship with the OM. It hard that I still have all of this love inside that I can't express right now (certainly not in the way I want to) as I don't want to smother her especially since she has told me that's what its doing.
